"behavior is a language" - SO TRUE, it's really helped curb resentment on my part in terms of setting expectations for what people say they can/will do versus what they actually do
I am home alone with my kid a lot - probably 25 weeks out of the year. These are all A+. Favorite “is it really dinner” meal is a tortilla, refried beans and some cheese. Fiber and protein, check.
this is an all time great post but in particular I sent the "a needy intern who was in the control booth for every recording session of Childhood Wounds the EP" excerpt to all my fellow mommy issues friends and my husband and it will live rent free in my head forever xoxo
On my third of three solo evenings tonight and I keep forgetting the part about prioritizing my own sleep!! But these Season 2 White Lotus episodes aren't gonna re-watch themselves ☹️
If you feel like elevating your “share plate” (known in our house as “picnic dinner”), may I suggest handing each kid a muffin tin and letting them fill up the sections with whatever they want? Handful of cereal, a squeezed out gogurt tube, some pretzel sticks, maybe a cut up apple if you’re feeling fancy.
My kids' favorite thing in the world is "cracker lunch" which is basically girl dinner but heavy on the crackers and eaten while watching an underfed animated princess sing. Every time I serve it they act as if I, too, am a demigod with a magical hook.
Stopped the scroll when just your beautiful face was poking out of that photo and genuinely thought your water straw was a cigarette. I think you might be the only person who could pull off smoking immediately after giving birth. I was like, hat tip, Evie. You deserve that stick.
I really love what you said about dinner, TOTALLY agree and same at my household, but you said it in a more witty, clever fashion. Also, I love the way you encouraged us to get a babysitter and wander our neighborhoods at dusk remembering words spoken in 2009. This is a poetic and aspirational image, thank you!! 💗
Love the part about being unapologetic about *not* accepting complicated, strings-attached family help AND still being allowed to complain about not having family help. Just, if you have to recover from every interaction with your MIL, is it really help?!
"behavior is a language" - SO TRUE, it's really helped curb resentment on my part in terms of setting expectations for what people say they can/will do versus what they actually do
When I'm feeling generous, I do believe that they really want to be able to do the things they say they will do...
First paragraph stopped me in my tracks so I set my Teams status to BRB, made a coffee, and read the rest on the couch. Good stuff.
I am home alone with my kid a lot - probably 25 weeks out of the year. These are all A+. Favorite “is it really dinner” meal is a tortilla, refried beans and some cheese. Fiber and protein, check.
food of the gods imo
this is an all time great post but in particular I sent the "a needy intern who was in the control booth for every recording session of Childhood Wounds the EP" excerpt to all my fellow mommy issues friends and my husband and it will live rent free in my head forever xoxo
On my third of three solo evenings tonight and I keep forgetting the part about prioritizing my own sleep!! But these Season 2 White Lotus episodes aren't gonna re-watch themselves ☹️
I mean, do as I say not as I do...
If you feel like elevating your “share plate” (known in our house as “picnic dinner”), may I suggest handing each kid a muffin tin and letting them fill up the sections with whatever they want? Handful of cereal, a squeezed out gogurt tube, some pretzel sticks, maybe a cut up apple if you’re feeling fancy.
My kids' favorite thing in the world is "cracker lunch" which is basically girl dinner but heavy on the crackers and eaten while watching an underfed animated princess sing. Every time I serve it they act as if I, too, am a demigod with a magical hook.
Stopped the scroll when just your beautiful face was poking out of that photo and genuinely thought your water straw was a cigarette. I think you might be the only person who could pull off smoking immediately after giving birth. I was like, hat tip, Evie. You deserve that stick.
Weirdly they were not passing out cigs! I still miss that hospital branded water cup tho :(
Cannot agree more. The chokehold family dinner has on American families (mom's!) is the source of so much stress for so many. I went off on it in romper recently (included a link to you Evie!) https://www.romper.com/life/i-quit-cooking-family-mealtime-weeknight
Loved this, and the bits about nurturing your relationship with yourself and being able to help yourself are so profound 👏
A+++++++ to all of this. Perfect advice.
Cereal or dinner is like the one life hack I have hacked and found genuinely helpful.
Part two please!!!
I really love what you said about dinner, TOTALLY agree and same at my household, but you said it in a more witty, clever fashion. Also, I love the way you encouraged us to get a babysitter and wander our neighborhoods at dusk remembering words spoken in 2009. This is a poetic and aspirational image, thank you!! 💗
Love the part about being unapologetic about *not* accepting complicated, strings-attached family help AND still being allowed to complain about not having family help. Just, if you have to recover from every interaction with your MIL, is it really help?!
Dinner IS a construct, yes! A thousand times yes.
I loved all of this.