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ok doing this plate/abandoned gas station/baseball bat date IMMEDIATELY

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"Everyone who is in love thinks they are inventing something." Beautifully put and SO true. x

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Feb 15, 2023Liked by Evie Ebert

That line about grad school taking away your carefree boyfriend was a gut-puncher. Not because it’s mean or untrue but because it speaks to what a mind flaying experience grad school too often is. I say this as someone who is still in the academic game despite it driving me to the edge of the mouth of madness several times over. It gets better, but also worse, but then better again. Hopefully. And it’s so hard on partners, even if you like me are married to another academic. I can’t speak for Nick, but for myself I feel pretty certain that a different profession would probably have flayed me in different ways. If there are alternative timelines I’m fairly certain that they don’t offer the ideals we imagine, but merely different versions of mental illness.

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Feb 14, 2023Liked by Evie Ebert

I may do the $1 subscriber insider thing just to read this Karp article! Neurotic, insecure mom describes me perfectly after the arrival of our first (though I would not have thought to train as a sleep consultant so Kudos to you!) I had already studied the Taking Car* Babies rules before the child was even born. And even though she said I shouldn't practice the first month while breastfeeding was established, the rules were already implanted. To this day (oldest will be 5 this summer) I think about how much I missed out on holding him to sleep because I wanted to put him down awake but drowsy every single time. That feeling of a child asleep on your chest without holding up any of their weight? Heavenly! I am sad I didn't experience that very much with him. He was a great sleeper, and so our sleep was good too, but it almost feels like we traded sleep deprivation for some other kind of neurosis to 'do it right'. Not to mention, I'm still angry that I paid money to someone who then contributed to the Cheeto in Chief. We rented the snoo with my second. I also held him to sleep A LOT. It felt like it was the last time I was going to be able to do that and so I did. And his sleep wasn't amazing the first few months, but it was fine. I was also a second time mom who had a lot fewer f*cks to give. I think that made for a healthier baby, a healthier mom and a better connection overall.

PS - that plate and engagement story? Amazing

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This was just the best.

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+1 to letting us pay you, even if you make the same content available for free!

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